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The Other Man – Paul Alan Fahey

Buon giorno!

I’m so happy to be back with all of you again. I really loved talking to you last time about Bomber’s Moon and the Lovers and Liars gay historical romance series.


Some News:  I recently discovered Lovers and Liars is a finalist for this year’s Rainbow Awards. I was very surprised as this was very unexpected. Someone somewhere must like my writing. 🙂 Also I want you to know that you can access FREE a very short story, “Words,” in e book format from JMS Books. Here’s the link for the free e book.


I hope you’ll let me know what you think of it.

I have a pretty active short blog on Goodreads. If you’re a member, come by and say hi. I post every Tuesday.

Here’s the link for the blog:

TODAY ONLY DEAL!! JMS Books is offering my 2012 Rainbow Award winning e book, The View from 16 Podwale Street—a lesbian historical romance—at 40% off.


Hope you’ll enjoy this WWII romance set in Warsaw, Poland, just before the German invasion.

Okay, let’s start.

This time I’ll be talking a little about The Other Man, an anthology of personal essays I edited last year. Some of our best writers are in it. The book was a 2013 Rainbow Award winner for nonfiction.


We’ll also be doing a giveaway of The Other Man e book, so be sure and comment on the post and join the discussion. We’ll be picking a winner or two or maybe even three.

Okay, let’s start the discussion.

I’m really glad to be back with you!!!

Here’s what The Other Man is about: Short Synopsis


He’s an accident waiting to happen: the skateboarder round the bend, the smiling barista with the extra hot mocha, the computer geek eager to retool your mate’s hard drive. He’s a relationship gatecrasher bound by no rules and with no sense of fair play. Like Caesar, he comes, he sees, he conquers and leaves behind something akin to a lingering twenty-four hour flu, or at worst, a really bad case of the Black Death.

On the flip side, we can be the other man, charging in and breaking the bonds of a committed relationship without a thought to the pain and misery we inflict on the injured parties. Face it. We’re not all innocent bystanders in these other-man scenarios.

The Other Man is an artistic collaboration by and about gay men and their relationships. If you’ve ever been the other man, had him invade your life, or if you’re just plain curious about this beguiling, sexy and unpredictable creature, then this anthology of personal essays is for you.

Twenty–one of our most acclaimed authors–many Lambda Award Winners and Finalists, such as Rob Byrnes, Jeff Mann, Tom Mendicino, Erik Orrantia, Felice Picano, and David Pratt, write candidly about either being the other man, suffering the other man or having their relationships tested by infidelity.

What we learn from these gifted authors is we must take heart that it does get better and one day our luck is bound to change. We’ll survive the bumps and detours in our relationships and weather the storms, or we resolve to move on. Hopefully, along the way, we’ll meet someone new and simpatico, maybe even our long awaited soul mate, and life is indeed good again. Or is it?

In The Other Man, prominent gay writers tell their personal stories of what it’s like being the other man, suffering the other man or having their relationships tested by infidelity.

In this short excerpt from “WHAT IF,” Jeffrey Ricker reflects on the summer of 2003, when he asked himself “What if I were a big old slut?”

What follows is a candid, personal and very funny account of how he spent the summer.

Short Excerpt:

“WHAT IF” by Jeffrey Ricker

“Online dating was uncharted territory for me. While I wouldn’t call myself a prude, up to that point I’d never given my friends much of a reason to think otherwise. I only started dating guys in my mid-twenties, never very frequently or for very long. (I told myself I was concentrating on my career. In hindsight I can only ask myself, What career?)

All of my attempts at dating tended to fizzle out around the two-month mark. For the longest time, six weeks seemed like the hurdle I’d never get over. By the time the summer of 2003 came around, I’d say I started making up for lost time.

I can’t say that I was very discerning in my selections that summer. I had only two criteria: Potential dates had to be within a fifteen-minute drive and be reasonably attractive. Both of those requirements were negotiable, though. I don’t know why I thought dating in that state of mind was a good idea, but it didn’t seem to be much of a hindrance. Apparently skinny and depressed were the qualities a lot of people found desirable.

Oh, who am I kidding? These guys didn’t really care about my state of mind—at least, most of them didn’t. Not that I cared much either. I had a feeling I was being foolish, but when your head says, “Are ya nuts?” your libido answers, “Yeah, baby!” and your heart says, “Leave me out of this; I’m on sabbatical.”

Guess which one talks the loudest? The dumbest one, of course. That’s how you end up getting it on with more guys in one summer than you have in your whole life up to that point—which still isn’t all that high of a number.

In hindsight (and maybe because the memory is the first thing to go), few of the guys I met that summer remain particularly memorable.”

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There’s another, longer excerpt on the buy links at JMS Books. Don’t miss Rob Byrnes’ equally hilarious excerpt from “A Brief History of the Divorce Party.” 

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Short Bio:

PAUL ALAN FAHEY writes for JMS Books. He is the author of the Lovers and Liars gay wartime romantic suspense series—a 2014 finalist for a Rainbow Award—and the editor of the 2013 Rainbow Award-winning anthology, The Other Man: 21 Writers Speak Candidly About Sex, Love, Infidelity, &Moving On.

His first LGBT novella, The View From 16 Podwale Street, published by JMS Books, won a 2012 Rainbow Award. Over the years, Paul’s writing has appeared in numerous literary journals such as Byline, Palo Alto Review, Long Story Short, African American Review, The MacGuffin, Thema, Gertrude, Kaleidoscope, and in a variety of fiction and nonfiction anthologies from Carry the Light, Cup of Comfort, My Mom’s My Hero, to Writing on Walls, and Somewhere in Crime.

He lives on the California Central Coast with his husband, Robert Franks, and a gaggle of shelties.


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